All or nothing, or somewhere in between


I have been struggling the last month or so to get back into the swing of the things, and I think part of the problem was that my goals were looking increasingly unattainable. It’s an all or nothing kind of thinking that I often have problems with. Because I can’t do something perfectly, I won’t do it at all. Because I won’t be able to get it all done I don’t even do a little bit.

So this week I started to think in terms of what could I do by the end of the year. I gave myself permission to switch the goal posts. I’m not going to be able to lose 20 kilos by the end of the year, but I can aim for 6. I’m probably not going to finish the novel, but I can aim to have it be twice the size it is now. I may not have all my blocks as finished items but I can at least have them at the top stage.

Is it a cop-out? Maybe. But I think at the end of the day it’s about making progress, and by setting goals that are achievable I have actually been able to get moving again.


3 responses »

  1. Hi Helen, I especially like the cushion cover and the brightly colored bag.
    I know what you mean about all or nothing; if I don’t think I have enough time to complete something I often won’t start either. Then when I see all the things that need doing I get stressed which makes it worse still! I’m sure its better to be kind to yourself (and realistic) by setting smaller goals which you can achieve, making better use of small blocks of free time rather than waiting for that large block which never happens. Then you can see you are progressing towards the larger goal, and be encouraged. I’m preaching to myself, btw. 🙂

    • Thanks. The small blocks of things definitely works better. For the last week I’ve been setting myself shorter to do lists for each day, and only really thinking about the day I’m on. I am getting so much more done.

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